Be careful of those around you who wish to keep you in bondage to your unhealthy habits and toxic life choices. Misery truly does love company and many of the miserable hate nothing more than seeing those around them who used to be in the same low degree of sadness and despair choosing to do better for themselves.
Negging, gaslighting, or purpose sabotage, are all things that the miserable may try to do to keep those looking to get out of that state stagnated alongside them. That’s why it’s often those closest to us - family, “friends”, colleagues - who feel the most attacked when they see us doing better. Our enemies are more often than not those who in theory should be the ones supposed to give us love, support, and who should put our best interests at heart, and not strangers.
Pay close attention to the way those in your circle react to seeing you improve yourself. If you’re trying to get fit, do they purposely try to give you unhealthy foods to halt your progress? If you wish to go back to school, do they talk down on you and put limiting beliefs based on your age or past circumstances to keep you from making that choice? If you notice that they all of a sudden resent you because a new opportunity presented itself to you and are acting distant or hostile as result?.
Always look closely at the signs and accept people by the actions they show you, not their words. Remember that trying to sabotage you is also an act of boundary-crossing and a lack of respect. Assert yourself if you have to, and remove the miserable from your life.
